Real VS. Fake...

No, not boobs...people. I was talking with a really good friend yesterday and she and I were discussing some of the people we work with being real vs. being fake. We were more so wondering why people still socialize with the ones that we know flat out are fake. By fake, I mean people that will be nice to your face and then talk about you behind your back, two faced. I know everyone talks about people to a degree behind their backs, shoot, that is what she and I were doing. But we were making quandries, not derogatory statements that are not true. And nothing we said about any of these people could or would not be said to their faces.

So why would people continue to hang out with people they know are going to turn right back around and talk poorly about them??? See my previous post about comfort zones. It is easier to live in the comfort zone, keeping the peace, than to confront the situation and let the person know directly that you KNOW they are talking about you.

Basically, because of that, the negative behavior exhibited of talking poorly about people behind their backs is also positively reinforced. Not only will people still hang out with the ones doing the talking, but they listen to it as well. And even if they do not participate (which sometimes they DO), just the listening and not defending of the person being talked about is just like rewarding the behavior to begin with. These people then find themselves entertaining, and obviously the ones they are talking to have no issue with what they are saying because they have yet to speak their mind. So, the cycle continues. I am not saying they would stop altogether, but honestly, if people would stand up for one another, the "talkers" would certainly find themselves with less of an audience, and maybe then they would pick and choose what they say and to whom.